近一周来，纽约冠状病毒患者的确诊病例从星星点点到排山倒海，截止今天已经过万。与此同时，由于政策和安全考虑，许多人都在慢慢适应“在家工作”这个全新的生活模式。独居的人可能已经开始思念每天和同事朋友们的见面，而夫妻或大家庭中的一员则可能在竭尽全力不掐死对方。对大多数职场人来说，在家工作这件事打破了曾经的规律，而每个人...

Being Asian in the U.S. is a unique experience. In this group, we will explore the rewards and struggles of being Asian. Through sharing each other's life ex...

每个在美国工作生活的中国人都有自己的酸甜苦辣。也许你在学校或职场体会过说不出的隐形歧视，也许你曾在深夜挂掉越洋电话后独自痛哭过，也许你体会过彻骨的绝望却还得转身带上微笑的面具。你不是一个人。 亚裔互助心理咨询小组将在每周一晚见面（30街和7大道），费用为$60/次。在小组中，我们会谈到父母关系，恋爱婚姻，职场挑战...

很多次在心理咨询里，来访者说到自己的创伤时会加一句，不过我这也不算什么，我还是挺幸运的，我知道很多孤儿/非洲难民/犯罪受害者比我惨多了。往往这时他们的神情里有一丝询问，有时我会问：这句话里是包含了一个问题吗？ 经过又一番探索，来访者有时会意识到自己之所以这么说，其实是在问：我是不是在浪费你的时间？我的事情是否真的...

三年前，我刚开始在纽约格式塔中心接受长程培训的时候，每节课都会有同学和老师做一次心理咨询体验，供大家学习老师的技巧。 在一次体验中，一位同学说到伤痛的事情，哭得很厉害。老师与他结束前说了一句话：很感谢今天你让我看到了你这么深层的一部分，但我知道，这不是你的全部，你还有许多不同的部分。本来还沉浸在伤痛里的同学脸上舒...

Once in a while, a brave client would ask me: "Yiwen, I thought I processed and overcame that depression/trauma/fixed gestalt, it was so great. But now I'm e...

To listen to your anger is not to blindly follow what it wants you to do, but to have an ear for what message it carries. You feel angry FOR A REASON. Anger ...

在咨询中，每当我听到来访者说 “唉，这就是我的命啊”，我就知道今后和她/他的工作有可能会比较艰巨。 其实很多人会无意识地重复自己伤痛的过去，因为人都会倾向于选择自己更熟悉的状态，哪怕这个状态是痛苦的。在未经审视的人生里，充满苦痛的熟悉远大于很可能蕴藏着快乐幸福的陌生。这也是为什么很多长期家暴受害者明知道分手就可以...

从二十岁开始，我越来越意识到愤怒这个情绪的重要性，也越来越感恩自己的愤怒。是它推动着我去说本来不敢说的话，也是它指引着我建立起了自己的边界。如果没有愤怒，我可能没办法捍卫自己的权利，更别提过上自己想要的生活了。 不过这并不容易。毕竟我们从小接受的教育就是要隐藏或避免显露负面情绪，尤其是愤怒。对于女孩来说更甚。在家...

NYC is in serious winter now, and there's no better time to self care and recharge. Sometimes it takes more courage to rest than fight. If that's the case fo...

Whenever I hear a suffering client say "oh it's all just my fate", I know we have challenging work ahead. Yes, it's not uncommon for people to relive their ...

Have you ever felt there are parts of yourself that you avoid or dislike? These are the parts that you disown over the years for whatever reason. For example...

It's human nature to want to be liked and feel belong. While pursuing this, many of us lose sight of what we want and who we really are. All people pretende...

Have you ever wondered why people tend to have more personal space in big cities? Counterintuitive, isn't it? Shouldn't there be less space when there are mo...

No one is 100% sure of themselves, and you don't need to be 100% sure to start doing the thing you always wanted. It's only fun when you are not sure if you ...

Since my early 20s, I've been grateful to my anger. It pushed me to have difficult conversations and guard my boundaries. Without it, I wouldn't have been ab...

Do you believe that your core self is constant no matter where you live and how old you get? Gestalt therapy believes the self is not static, but an ongoing...

Many of my clients talked about how much they suffered from procrastination. For some, the reason behind their procrastination is the perfect standard they s...

Nostalgia is both sad and beautiful. Practicing in New York as a psychotherapist gives me the privilege of witnessing people's complicated emotions towards t...

Death anxiety is tricky. It's contained in every living moment, but it is also masked creatively by all of us. Some use love affairs to have a delusion of t...